Sure, it creates a culture in which women are freer to have sex, but the main point of contraception is to create a situation in which people can have sex without the consequences of having a child. That is precisely what fundamentalists and conservatives hate. They hate the idea of sex without consequences.
Some of you wonder and fret about the declining number of young men who get married and the increasing divorce rate. This issue we're discussing is at the center of it. Women attempt to trap men into marriage and become pregnant. Some men give in and do it because they figure they'll end having to pay, regardless. Others say, "Screw you, I'm not getting married." Then you have the ones who get hitched, they don't want to have kids and the wife gets pregnant anyways and refuses to get an abortion. The father leaves. This is what I believe has recently happened with a member of my family. Her mother and her family are big into the "baby culture" and probably pressured her to have a kid. The father didn't want one and now he's mostly out of the picture several states away. He would probably still be with her but for the pregnancy that he didn't want.
People of your ideology are scared and you should be. I'd like to hear your best argument for a young man in his twenties for getting married. What is the pay-off? Some $$ back on his taxes? That's a small benefit when compared with all the headaches he will associate with marriage and, specifically, having a family. He no longer has to get married to get tail. In fact, if he's financially successful, he can look forward to being in his fifties and getting tail from women in their twenties. Why in the world would he risk sacrificing half of his stuff on a marriage that will most likely end in divorce when he can stay single and have the things he wants? I don't envy your position. I think less and less young men are under the spell of religion, so the whole guilt trip is probably less and less effective, as well. I predict this generation of young men in their twenties and the generation in their teens will contain the largest percentage that don't get married and certainly don't have kids.
If you came up with a system in which men don't take it up the ass in the case of divorce, a more just way of settling custody issues and if you didn't hold men financially responsible for kids they don't want, you might make men more willing to get married.
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